At war

I went to church this Sunday and they talked about being at war with people that we are supposed to be "at war" for. Fighting with the very same people we should be fighting for. He didn't get into this, but what I concluded as I thought about it later is that we, or I anyway am fighting the people I should be fighting for because I am fighting myself, rather than fighting for myself half the time. So, before I can make any changes on the outside, I realize that I need to stop doing that.